Why do Abusers Abuse!???!???

This has always been a topic that I wondered about. I always wondered why there were men that abused women and why there were women that stayed in abusive relationships. First and Foremost, let me say that I don’t think it’s right for a woman to hit a man, or vice versa, but this post is geared towards all the male abusers out there and in here…

Me and My Mr. always have arguments about these sorts of topics. His claim to fame is that “A woman needs to stay in her place and she won’t have to worry about it.” I always say, “What is a woman’s place?? There is no reason why a man can talk sh&t, get up in his (or any) womans face and just because a woman should “stay in her place” she can’t defend herself. I see no sense in that, but anywho I never understood why men thought it was OK to hit women. Was there a newsflash that I didn’t hear about?? I would think that hitting a women would make you feel like less of a man, considering we’re supposed to be the more “fragile” of our species. It seems to easy to hit a women. It seems that men are supposed to be our protectors but when we need protection from them, what are we supposed to do? Especially when it ends up being someone you love or trust, such as a boyfriend, husband or even a father, or an uncle, it’s much harder to stand up to that person. Some are too riddled with fear to even think about taking a stand against an abuser.

 There are many alternatives to hitting your lady. When me and My Mr. are in the midst of arguing and I feel like it’s going too far, I usually just leave, cool off and maybe talk about it later.

On the other hand besides the abuse that happens inside of an argument there are men that prey on women. There are men on Earth that enjoy beating on women. These are the types of guys that I never want to get involved with, meet, or even know. There is something really degrading about the fact that a man will take his frustrations out on his wife or his woman, in other words, the woman he is supposed to love. I do think there are men out there that get enjoyment out of someone else’s fear, they crave and love that cycle of abuse, forgiveness, abuse and then again forgiveness. I guess that’s why they invented shows like “Snapped,” where women end up killing their husbands because they were abused up until the point they were scared for their lives. This women feel like they have to take his, whether in his sleep, in the back, or whatever the case might be. That’s another thing, they are so scared to defend themselves they resort to shooting, or killing while their “victim” is in sleep mode or not aware of what’s going on.

I swear, abuse is a powerful thing. I know there are many aspects about this subject that I don’t know. I have done a little reading on the subject but nothing too extensive. I was just thinking about it and wanted to express my opinions on the topic.

Have any of you ever been in an abusive relationship? What came of it?

What if you found out the person you love is an abuser (emotional or physical), would you tell someone? Would you honestly try to leave?

What do you think about the women that end of killing their abusive husbands??